Today I went through Mr. Shiv Khera’s amazing book ‘YOU CAN WIN’ and read an interesting part about changing our attitudes towards negative thoughts. In his view there are 8 steps to change the attitude of a person. I passed the first one today and that part I would like to share with you.
STEP 1: CHANGE FOCUS, LOOK FOR THE POSITIVE
You need to become a seeker of good. You need to focus on the positive in your life. Start looking for what is right in a person or situation instead of looking for what is wrong. Because our conditioning, most of us are so attuned to finding fault and looking for what is wrong that we often forget to see the positive picture.
LOOK FOR THE GOLD
Andrew Carnegie came to America from Scotland as a young boy. He started out by doing odd jobs and ended up as one of the largest steel manufacturers in United States. At one time, he had 43 millionaires working for him. A million dollar is a lot of money today, but in the 1920s it was worth much more.
Someone once asked Mr. Carnegie how he dealt with people. Andrew Carnegie replied, “Dealing with people is a lot like digging for gold: When you go digging for an ounce of gold you have to move tones of dirt. But when you go digging, you don’t go looking for the dirt, you go looking for gold.”
Andrew Carnegie’s reply has a very important message. Though sometimes it may not be apparent there is something positive in every person and every situation. we have to dig deep to look for the positive.
What is your focus? Search for gold. If you are looking for what is wrong with people or with things, you will find many faults. What we are looking for? Gold or Dirt? Even in paradise, fault finders will find faults. Most people find what they are looking for.
This is one of the best example that the auther can give us. Now I am ready to change my attitude with people and things. Want to know about you too.